It's easier for guys to think that getting good with women has to do with only things like fashion, money, image, race, etc.
Instead of admitting to themselves that to get good with women, it is simply is a skill set that can be learned and mastered.
The moment you realize it is a skill set now all of a sudden you have to put your ego aside and take responsibility for your game, take responsibility for your life with women and finally realize that you are not going to get the results you want unless you acquire the skills needed.
It is easier to hide behind an excuse.
It is easier to hide behind a rationalization.
But the moment you accept that game is a skill set, there is nowhere to hide.
You either take responsibility for your game or you don't.
Now for guys that are not in this group, they read a post like this and still hang on to their delusional beliefs to protect their ego.
For you, surgical player, you realize and understand that game can be learned, practiced and ultimately mastered.
Treat it like a skill set and you will get results.
Bring your ego into the equation and you will make excuses for your lack of results.
Realizing that this is all a skill set is actually liberating. It puts you in control.
Now you don't have to worry that “some people have it and some don’t”
You have the control to actually better your life with women.
It's all in your hands.
But, this control now takes away your excuses and for some people, this actually depresses them. Now they realize that if they do not get this handled it is their fault and no one else is to blame.
Becoming really good at attracting women and getting your dating life handled is hard work. But so is every skill set.
To become a great musician takes a lot of practice.
To become a great athlete takes so much discipline.
And the same is true for becoming great with women.
The question you need to ask yourself is “ Are you willing to drop all your excuses and finally get this handled”?
“Are you willing to sacrifice”
“Are you willing to drop all your excuses and learn this skill set just like any other?”
The good news is that everyone has tried to get good at some skills, whether its maths, a language, a sport, an instrument or anything. You know what the process can look like. Now you just need to switch the mindset in your head so you can finally start to see your dating life just like those other skills you pursued.
The day will come when others ask you how you got there and what it took and you say to them “I simply got good at the skillset one day at a time”
I am only at this point in my dating life right now because I internalized this mindset to the core, not because I am gifted or special.
You can do it too.