So many guys that I have coached have had issues of “not feeling worthy” or “not feeling good enough”.

The first thing you need to understand is that this is extremely common and pretty much every man and woman will have these issues.

The good news is that you can make progress.

You can start to feel good enough.

You can start to feel worthy.

In this short article I am not going to just tell you to start feeling worthy and just hope that through some magic, you will instantly feel good enough.

No this will not happen.

But what I can do is shed some light on this topic so you understand how to go about feeling worthy or feeling good enough.

So let’s get into it.

The concept of “You Are Already Enough” is discussed a lot.

Basically, this concept states that you need to realize that you are already good enough…

Now, from a mindset perspective let’s break this down:

Believing you are already of value and have value to provide is a great mindset.

This is an important mindset as it is important to understand that you have value to offer any girl and there is no reason you should have to prove yourself to her.

BUT

Thinking that you are already enough is also a very dangerous mindset

If you are already enough, then why aren’t you getting the consistent results you want?

If you are already enough then why do you have to eliminate certain low-value traits?

If you are already enough, why learn game?

The mindset of you is already enough can easily be a rationalization for the lack of learning, the lack of results and the unwillingness to do what is necessary to change.

Every mindset is only beneficial if it both helps your inner world without compromising outer world results.

If a mindset compromises your real-world results, you need to start questioning the mindset.

Lots of advice out there would tell you ” don’t worry you are already good enough, don’t do anything to change.”

In some cases I would say, you are not enough at all if you were you wouldn’t want to improve yourself.

And this is good…

This will keep you striving for more…

It will make sure you keep growing…

Yes, the balance of believing you are enough without compromising your real-world results or rationalizing a lack of results with the phrase “it’s okay because I am already enough”.

To summarise all the above:

  • You have value and you do not need to prove yourself to anyone.
  • But you still have to learn the skills to get the consistent results you want.

Hopefully, I have shed some light on this topic for you to firstly logically understand these concepts and then you can go about beginning the transformation process by actually working on these principles to make actual changes.

Any changes that are worth it will take time but ultimately feeling worthy or good enough is worth every second.


Gabriel Grey
Gabriel Grey

Gabriel Grey is the Founder & Executive Instructor at Surgical Pickup. Gabriel has been practicing and teaching technique-based cold approach pickup for almost a decade. Gabriel has traveled the world and taught thousands of men his unique concepts, strategies, and techniques for attracting, dating, and sleeping with women that have transformed the dating lives of his students. He has become well-known for his technical and analytical approach to the pickup, seeing it as nothing more than a skillset that can be studied, learned, and mastered by anyone. Having internalized the outer game techniques and principles to a CORE level, Gabriel’s style looks deceivingly “natural” despite being heavily technical and completely replicable by his students.